Monday, November 15, 2010
So to continue Mr. Wilder's post he pointed out that what we really want to be aware of are the aberrations in the normal patterns of the world around us. The world (society) flow in a certain standard. Consider, personal space between people or how someone talks to you. One of DeBecker's (author of Gift of Fear) mentions in his book is that charm is not inherent. It must be learned. So if a person is being charming and it gives you the heebie-jeebies then chances are you are right. There is a change is a non-normal flow in the standard patterns around us.
An extreme example might be a person walking through a crowd that bums into people. Perhaps even several people. If you watch even the busiest and most crowded streets everyone moves with a certain pattern. Very rarely will you see someone move against that flow. Unless they are a tourist or are breaking pattern for a reason.
So essentially we are not just being aware. We are watching for something that breaks the routine. Is flowing against the current or standard pattern of the environment.
Another quick example, people do not stare most of the time. If someone is staring at you, then this would also be a change in the normal pattern. Look for the elephant in the room. With a little practice he will not be hard to spot.